We have asked our psychologist what you think of small children as a parenting tool.Kati's story drew my attention to the fact that aggression within the family should be examined from the point of view of every family member, since the child who beats the child is mostly unperturbed by her soul. It has now become clear to me that it is not the parents who are punishing their children, but the informing that they need to be informed. They must be helped to stop stopping the hand raised.
"Daddy beat me since I was a baby. The first time I remember was because of a left-over lunch. Something weird, maybe I should have eaten it. I was sick, disgusted. Anyway, and always. Mom didn't save me because she was sorry because Daddy had blamed her. Later I had a lot of trouble with me, and I got pissed off. he taught me how to read hymns before school. I didn't blame the beats. He also grew up being beaten in his childhood. causes me ... I found out in high school that not all children are beaten. I could only talk to others much sooner than that. a cousin told me she was in that situation, in fact ... It was a fantastic sensation when we found each other. Somebody wrote me off.
My parents divorced me when I was five. I met Dad a lot and got myself almost every time. Mom never protested. They were right after the election, they didn't want each other badly. Mom didn't even think she was abusing her father. Ever since I was an adult, it never went wrong. I think there's so much left of my upbringing that I see what a nice girl I am, and they have a beautiful grandson.
I don't know what I live day by day. I'm afraid not to get caught by the dhh, because then I lose my head. Occasionally, I was struck with something by the pumice, and I finally beaten it with the first object that came to my hand. And only in hindsight, seeing his grief, did I wonder what had happened. I realized that only those close to me were sinful. I expect you to understand what's going on in me to help me overcome my anxiety. Perhaps by causing me pain, I can make my own pains.
Beating is not the solution
Anyway, the whole thing is very dangerous. My baby is like a month old. I have to save myself. I might be able to defend myself or run away with it where I want to be blamed. But so I am completely dependent on me, all responsibility is mine. Magnmagamtуl afielek. There's probably no nicer sensation.
This kid had become aware of me at the age of sixty, when he once cried relentlessly. Inside, there was a constant voice in my head: You have to help it, you can't make it a poor thing, don't hurt it, don't hurt it But in the meantime, I felt that I was not interested in anything anymore, I wanted to be silent, anything. Then I suddenly put myself in the bed, ran to the toilet and locked the door on myself. I turned on the fan so I couldn't hear anything and decided that I would only go back when I was calm. Sikerьlt. And since then I have been able to control myself several times.
My job is to break the queue. To break the blame that has been generating his family for generations. I need to overcome myself to have a better life for Kiskatak. And I have to save my grandchildren too ... "
We have a lot of "Kati" alive
Look at the situation with his eyes!
The parent is a man too!
Beat the kid: цngуl!
Would you be right? Are you really born? If you literally interpret it, yes. The child, however, felt that it was not important for her mother at all that being a participant in the property was: let her talk, don't do something that would bother her! And Joki, since she was born, wants nothing more than to "confuse" her mother and make her pay attention to her. He realized that he could only do this with increasing rudeness: be it. The slap is better than nothing! This situation makes it difficult for the child, since the child is already exposed to a lot of "not free". In such cases, it is almost impossible to find a fast and effective parenting method - without the need for anything. It would have been better to prevent it.
Minor corporal punishment of children is also prohibited
According to Dr. Edit Kecskeméti, director of the Hungarian National Commission for UNICEF, such a law, of course, does not serve to expel parents by slapping sanctions. Here the principle really matters. It would be effective if a credible, independent authority advocated that children should not be beaten or lead to results. It would be great if there was a children's rights ombudsman who could represent this. That is why it is very important, because even today, the phrase "great people" is uttered: - I respect my parents, because even if they beat me, they made a man of me.
- In fact, we do not have any numerical data on the rate at which social stroke occurs in families, but it is highly probable that one in ten children regularly suffers regardless of social affiliation. It is also repeatedly sanctioned for light babies. The reasons for this can be found in the fact that nowadays, many young mothers are completely unprepared for their baby. There is no place to turn, no opportunity to get out of a critical situation, as his parents are far away (or do not trust), and his couple work from morning till night. There would be much more need for a baby club where you could move, where you would meet a buddy, where a mother in need could ask for help from professionals.
Isn't that the mamba?
It may also be the case that the over-indulgent mother is provoked by the child with aggressive behavior. In addition to the mother, driven by her indecisive, casual fervor, the child wants to know where the limit is, how long she can go, and her behavior she wants to push through. If we always respond to this with another reaction, or perhaps the mother becomes leaner on her fatherly faith, the child will provoke her more and more wildly. Decide what we do and do not accept and then try to keep ourselves to it. If the child is overwhelmed by his temper, at least we should remain calm, for we are grown up.
We have to accept that children's bloodlines are different, but that does not mean that we have to rest assured that the biases are regularly reduced to activity. The kid follows the example he saw, the mere words are quite meaningless. The best thing we can do is observe what we do when we are frustrated, frustrated. Anyone who secretly insists that their child is "lifelong" and militant will not persuade him to advocate non-violence.
What should we do? For example, we kill off the fighting kids and give birth to the initiator: why do you repent? This gives him the opportunity to express his emotions in a more cultured way, in words. Let's practice how to formulate your senses! Let's be careful not to make one of them culpable. It might also be a good ask: what do you expect from the other, what to do?
Let's give you ideas on how they can match. This is new for the little ones, and we can't expect to find a solution that satisfies everyone.
If your kid is so upset that he can't talk to him, take him out of the game for a while. Let's sit down with him, don't scold him, or talk to him. Once you are relaxed, you can go back to play, but we need to move on to the next one. In repetitive fighting, it is best to go home. This behavior is made to be unacceptable.
Be sure to give yourself more exercise ahead of time so that you can drive away your feelings. Let's not be aggressive or kid, as this is just to prove that we have to act violently as we are trying to achieve results.
Picture book browsing is a great opportunity to approach this request from another site. Not only tell the events, but also the senses of the actors. Let's talk about what kind of face you are making, what kind of movement the figure is making. What do you think, what can you say? With this method, you can unconsciously lead you to pay attention to the feelings and mood of others.
Don't overdo it!Nowadays, very few parents think they need a well-managed neck broth. Most of the time, we decide to never have children, and keep up with their determination while the baby is lying in bed. However, sooner or later, almost everyone will have their hands. Let's try to make this happen less frequently! Let's just think we are so annoyed that we can't control ourselves. Цltцzkцdйs? Vбsбrlбs? Laying down in the evening? We can circumvent and transform these typical situations. Fatigue is usually caused by a combination of several factors.
Let us begin to remedy the problem in good time, not to let the temper grow in us. Unless you are very excited about dropping your seedling with a wooden spoon on your feet because of our headaches, let's not cut a picture for a minute, but put the instruments down before slamming the baby. Of course, we cannot always distract our little attention, nor can we disorient our anger, but do not exacerbate our anger with the child. If you can, run the block around, shut up, hack, do some lying down or do some yoga, breathing, and complain to a friend. We cannot give up all our needs in the long run. After a pleasant evening, with a fragrant bath, with an excursion, we gain new energy. It is also important that we know that life is about giving our children a thorough test of our patience from time to time. We are more comfortable and quieter in welcoming their smaller or larger females.