To say the same many times, to ask, to demand, to beg - sometimes even the calmest, most pathetic parent breaks that particular star. What can we do about it?
When we ask moms what they want to change, we often get the same answer: "I want to be much more patient with my kids, not to yell, not to annoy myself on the little things". However, this is extremely difficult as not only we can have harder days but also children; and by evening everyone will get tired of losing our patience even faster. But is there some way to learn or practice patience? Here are some practical tips.Sometimes everyone is impatient with childhood
- Any tips, tricks, magic methods will fail if you're not okay. Mothers tend to neglect their own health: they do not rest well, consume little fluid, do not exercise regularly, and are not well balanced in their diet. Of course, it is not easy to drop an urn from the sun as we exercise, but in the long run, we can gain a lot by maintaining our health.
- Count on me for ten! It is an old but well-known method to slowly count and lose some breath when you feel like you are starting to lose your patience (even if you can breathe when you breathe). Counting and concentration on your breathing slows down your heart rate due to stress, helps you calm down, and lets you look at events with a cooler head.
- Think of another head! Everyone has a person in life who they look up to or who envy a certain attribute - they may have the patience. Let's try to figure out how a person would behave in a given situation, what they would say, what they would do.
- Take a break! Not only children who are indecisive may sometimes need a quiet "thinking corner", but also parents. Take a walk (safe distance), go to another room for 5-10 minutes, do some simple yoga or stretching exercises, and relax a bit. Being able to physically pull yourself out of a stressful situation will make it psychologically easier to deal with.
- Plan ahead! In many cases, our impatience stems from being tired, hurrying, trying to do so many things at once, but the little ones smirking, not paying attention, doing anything else they should. Planning ahead can make your life much shorter and your everyday "decision-making" (such as what to have for dinner or what to wear) will save you more time and energy.
- Be calm in your surroundings! If you are calm, you are more likely to keep your baby calm. It's easy to say, of course, but it's hard to put into practice. Collect whatever you feel at ease - perhaps with pleasant music, perhaps with essential oils or plants - and a pleasant environment can help you be more patient.
- Make you patient! At first, it may seem strange, even outrageous, to do as if you were patient when you were shouting and hacking. According to Gretchen Rubin, author of Happiness Plan and Better Than Ever, "underreaction" can prevent us from feeling overwhelmed by lifting our voice but raising our voice we are facing a problem.
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